In about 30 seconds, one DNA test erased the name, the heritage, and the Latina identity Dr. Paulette Bethel had carried her entire life. The family she thought she came from was not the family her genes pointed to, and a long-held secret reshaped everything she believed about herself.
In this episode, Paulette opens up about the grief of losing an identity that felt unshakable, what it took to rebuild from truth, and how that pain became the foundation for her NPE (Not Parent Expected) Identity Disruption Model, now helping thousands navigate the same kind of loss.
Topics discussed:
00:00 - The moment a DNA test shattered her identity
02:33 - Growing up culturally fluid in New Orleans
03:50 - Joining the Air Force after a difficult divorce
06:38 - Building a blended TCK family across Asia
08:41 - Leading a foster care nonprofit in Hawaii
14:19 - Why she finally took the Ancestry DNA test
16:22 - Discovering zero percent Native American ancestry
18:24 - Grieving the loss of being Latina
20:28 - Creating the Identity Disruption model from her own pain
38:53 - Bella's front porch and the power of gathering
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Reaching millions annually, CULTURS champions unique cultural identity, transforming culturally fluid populations (multiethnic and/or geographically mobile people like Third Culture Kids) from being invisible outliers to originals. This includes people of culture in the rapidly growing DNA testing-fueled Not Parent Expected (NPE) community. Our world-class, veteran team of researchers and professionals spans five continents.
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Original Music by Tommy McMillion, McMillion Entertainment
Makeup by Sedrique Olsen
Styling by Sonja Henderson